Safety & boundaries
Findom plays with real money and real psychology. That combination demands real protections. This page is the whole doctrine — for both roles.
Non-negotiables
- 01
Consent is continuous
Agreement once is not agreement forever. Either party can renegotiate, pause or end a dynamic at any time — and “stop” is a complete sentence.
- 02
Limits come first
A monthly cap is set before the first tribute, enforced by the platform, and protected by a 72-hour cooling period on any increase.
- 03
Money hygiene
Tribute comes from disposable income only. Rent, bills, savings and credit are permanently off the table. A dynamic that touches them is over.
- 04
Privacy is architecture
Aliases, dedicated emails, platform chat. Real names, workplaces and addresses are never required and should never be volunteered.
- 05
Exit is always free
Block is instant, silent and consequence-free. Nobody — Findomme or paypig — ever owes anyone continued access.
Scams, fakes & pressure
Money scenes attract predators. These are the patterns — learn them once.
She found you first
Real Findommes are approached. An unsolicited “serve me, pig” DM is a scammer — usually running dozens of accounts. Verify the badge; check the profile age.
The generous whale
“I’ll send A$5,000 — just pay the A$80 transfer fee first.” There is no A$5,000. Any dynamic where the Findomme pays first is a scam, without exception.
Untraceable = unrecoverable
Requests for gift cards, crypto or “verification deposits” are scam signatures. Agreed tribute channels only.
“A real pig would…”
Guilt is not dominance. Anyone framing your hesitation as failure is manipulating you — block and report.
The fast move
Scammers rush you to apps without moderation. Staying on-platform keeps the record — and the protections — intact.
Deadlines are lies
“Tribute in the next hour or lose your place.” Real dynamics don’t have expiry dates.
Blackmail & threats:
follow this protocol
Blackmail is a crime in every Australian state. You are the victim, not the person at fault. Move through these steps in order.
- 01
Do not pay
Payment does not end the threat. It prices the next demand.
- 02
Preserve evidence
Save screenshots, usernames, URLs and payment records. Delete nothing.
- 03
Block and report
Report on-platform first. We preserve the record and restrict the account.
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Contact police
Blackmail is a serious offence. Bring the evidence you have saved.
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Lock down privacy
Make social profiles private and remove public employer or location details.
Safe is what makes it thrilling.
The limits aren’t the opposite of the fantasy. They’re what makes the fantasy possible.